“God, couldn’t you have given me easier boys?”
It’s a question I’ve asked God many, many times since realizing my two blessings were of the “hard-to-handle” type. So often I’ve wished He had given me easier boys, quieter boys, boys who love to read instead of run, build instead of blast.
I’ve spent time on this, you guys. I have questioned God’s love for me, and why He thought I could handle hard-to-handle boys when I plainly struggle in every way.
But today I want to focus less on the habits and personality of my boys, and more on my own. There comes a time when a mom has to embrace the truth of who her kids are instead of wishing they were something else.
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What God Wants Us to Do with the Hard Things
Gomer was a prostitute, Hosea a prophet of God. In the Old Testament book of Hosea, God tells these two to get married. He then allows the ensuing devastation to paint a vivid picture of His love and commitment to the nation of Israel. In the story, Gomer gives Hosea children, then betrays him, committing adultery over and over again.
Basically, it’s the story of how Israel turns to God, then leaves Him to follow idols, turns to God, then leaves Him to follow idols, and on and on. (It’s also an accurate portrayal of how every one of God’s children fails Him again and again, and how His love never fails us. But that’s for another day).
My gut reaction to this familiar story in the Bible is “God, why in the WORLD would You ask someone to live that kind of story just to prove something about Yourself?” It almost feels cruel, as if God created a human life—complete with feelings and limitations—just to make Himself look good. As if proving His love for Israel somehow trumped the need to be loving to Hosea.
It makes me feel like Hosea got the raw end of the deal. He was forced by God to spend his life chasing after a woman who embarrassed, hurt, and humiliated him over and over. My question “Why would you do that, Lord” seems legit …
But I’m learning that the better question is, “How, like Hosea, would God like to use the hard places of my life to demonstrate His love and commitment to a hurting world?“
I have hard-to-handle boys, I just do.
I can teach them, train them, and pray for them … but in the end, they’re still going to be hard-to-handle. It’s who God made them to be, and one day He’ll use it for something good (I’m believing that mama! You with me??). This is the battle God has given me. He wants me to fight it in a way that proves His love, character, and power to those around me.
It’s the way of the Jesus-follower. The way of the one sold out for Christ. The very definition of ambassador, representative, hands, and feet of God. Jesus said, “Not My will, but Yours, be done” (Luke 22:42, ESV), and calls us to follow Him.
It’s why I share challenges, hurts, and victories—so the hard places of my life can demonstrate God’s love to you, helping you believe that what He does for me, He can do for you.
Maybe you’re thinking to yourself, I didn’t sign up for this when I became a Christian. I didn’t know God would ask me to (fill in the blank with your hard thing) when I chose to follow Him. Truly I get it, mama. I didn’t fully comprehend it either.
But here’s the thing…
It’s truth. Hard but beautiful truth. We find it portrayed over and over again throughout the Bible … stories of people God used for His greater plan. Because in the end, it’s His plan that really matters. Not ours.
Maybe, just maybe, the main reason God gave you hard-to-handle boys was to prove His love to you, mama. Maybe the reason you’re enduring your hard place, whatever it is, is so you can be living proof of His unfailing love to someone else.
It really is all about Him.
Resource for Boy Moms:
Praying for Boys and The Gospel-Centered Mom by Brooke McGlothlin of The Mob Society!
If your hard thing in life is a hard-to-handle boy, stop fighting AGAINST him and fight FOR him instead. Brooke McGlothlin, Co-Founder of The MOB Society, and author of several books for moms including Praying for Boys: Asking God for the Things They Need Most, and the newly released Gospel Centered Mom: The Freeing Truth About What Your Kids Really Need offers a free 5-day prayer challenge just for mothers of boys based on Ephesians 6. Pray the armor of God over your hard-to-handle boys for the next 5 days along with thousands of other boymoms.