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Raising Godly boys is challenging enough, let alone in the awakening of a gender crisis. We need to keep focused on raising our children in the way of the Lord.

Raising Godly boys is challenging enough, let alone in the awakening of a gender crisis. The media is filled with articles on how to accept and encourage children's choice of gender. What?

Raising Godly Boys in a Gender Crisis World

The media is filled with articles on how to accept and encourage children’s choice of gender. Parents are being advised, even by recognized institutions, like the American Academy of Pediatrics, to be of encouragement and support to a child choosing his/her gender. A simple search on the internet and all the articles will make you fall to your knees and ask God for forgiveness, protection, and guidance.

We are living in times that you will be criticized if you don’t let your children lead themselves in life.

You will be labeled as intolerant for not accepting the demands of a minority group that is causing the breakdown of our social structure.

Interestingly, those secularists use wording that convicts Christians of being intolerant to others, when in reality they are being intolerant toward Christians. They demand us, Christians, to formally view and accept, and tolerate their non-biblical tendencies utilizing the slogan “God is love, and loves everyone regardless” without further deepening in a correct study of the Bible.

But watch when we try to expose our biblically-based clean moral ideas, we are attacked, bullied with intolerance towards our beliefs. The same intolerance they think we are treating them with, they are treating us, and worse. But one thing is clear, God has charged us with the duty to raise those children according to His precepts and his commands :

“Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.” (Proverbs 22:6).

What Way Should they Go?

When we diligently direct their behavior following biblical principles with love, they will always tenderly remember that guidance. That seed that we plant in their minds and hearts even if they were to part a bit from God during their life, it will always trigger in them, the realization that they should turn back to their roots, and gives them the power to discern between right and wrong.

If I was to leave my boy undisciplined, with no direction. Just let him go with what he feels or wants. He will eventually be a disgrace, as Proverbs 29:15 states, “A rod and a reprimand impart wisdom, but a child left undisciplined disgraces its mother.” When there is no guidance, the threat of not recognizing and accepting his identity as a man would rise exponentially.

There is no assurance, no clear vision of what he ought to be. He would be more open to letting loose the desires of his flesh. And he would easily be a target of the darts of sin. But with a strong foundation, he has better chances to fight those darts directed against him.

I’m not talking about being harsh with physical punishment, that’s plain abuse. I’m referring to the fact that we have to be strong. We have to be definite in our beliefs and values when educating our children. And to properly discipline them with love. We live in a fallen world, and we have been given a guide to be able to journey it: The Bible.

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Teaching by Example

“Be shepherds of God’s flock that is under your care, watching over them—not because you must, but because you are willing, as God wants you to be; not pursuing dishonest gain, but eager to serve; not lording it over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock.” (1 Peter 5: 2-3)
Boys need a clear example of how they shall behave. My 7-year old has learned to walk ahead of his sisters and his mother to open the door at stores. He will hold the door and come in until all the ladies are in. How does he know that? My husband taught him by modeling that behavior. Not only has he modeled it, but he has been verbal about it. He has clearly explained to him the reasons men behave as gentlemen towards women.
When God created Eve, he did from Adam’s ribs (Genesis 2: 21-24). Not from his legs to kick her. But from close to his heart, to shelter her and protect her. And for her to be an ideal help to him.

 Honest and Transparent Teaching

Sheltering and hiding him, will do no good. It is better to teach him to call sin for what it is, sin, and to give him the tools and knowledge on how to properly rebuke modern ideologies. Men of valor do this with firmness, but also with grace.
We are to teach our boys that we live in a fallen world because of Adam and Eve’s sin. This was caused by listening and believing Satan’s deception. With a clear explanation that Satan deceives people to believe that what is wrong is right. He ruins truth by staining it with lies.
We also are to teach that God loves everyone, even sinners, but He hates sin. It is not for us to judge anyone, judgment belongs to God only. We can only share our beliefs with others with love. We can tell them that God loves them, but in the end of times, we will all be judged. This is clear as it can be in 1 Corinthians 6:9-10:
“Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanders nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.”

My boy at his young age is aware that some men marry men, and some women marry women.

But my husband had to explain this to him in simple terms because of something he saw on TV. My husband was also diligent to show him with the Bible, that “The man (Adam) said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” 
That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” (Genesis 2: 23,24). and that God  “created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.  
God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it.” (Genesis 1:27-28). Even from a scientific standpoint, the command of multiplying can only be possible between humans of opposite sex. Same-sex marriage is incorrect behavior in the Christian faith. Marriage is an institution created by God for a man and a woman, established at creation.
Raising Godly boys is challenging enough, let alone in the awakening of a gender crisis. The media is filled with articles on how to accept and encourage children's choice of gender. What?

The more we provide biblical reasoning to our son, the more he will know God.

And the more he will let Him be known to others by speaking, behaving, serving, and loving like Jesus did. It will provide him with the tools he needs to be wise. To be able to earn his salvation, and God willing, lead others to salvation as well. This is backed up by what 2 Timothy 3:14-16 says:
 “But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have become convinced of, because you know those from whom you learned it, and how from infancy you have known the Holy Scriptures, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus.  All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness,”

Thoughts from Hubby

It all comes down to learning by example. If he is to grow to be godly, he needs to live a godly life. The only way for him to live a godly life is to have it modeled for him by us. The way he will “see” how a godly man behaves and lives is to see his father, me living a godly life.
I spend time with my family, and I also dedicate time to teach him. When we talk about science, we involve God in the conversation because He is the creator of everything.
When we talk about behavior, we involve God, by reminding him how He behaved in different circumstances. We serve through the music ministry and are giving him the tools to worthily praise God. It’s not just attending church, we participate.

We have praying habits before meals, and together we pray before going to sleep.

A boy can’t be expected to be godly if his parents don’t include God in every aspect of their lives. What’s more important, we show him to love God and to faithfully serve Him, because He first loved us.
Living godly is a lifestyle, and it doesn’t end with only raising godly boys. As parents, we prepare them to become godly men. Then they will live in the best possible way. With prayer and with a continuous relationship with our Savior.

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